I started this entry in November, I now find that I'm finishing it in a completely different year. Time goes by so quickly, ah the perfect setting for this post.
I was watching a movie, the man was going over all the details of a relationship that he had been in 15 years prior, They're sitting in a cafe over coffee, he's sitting there longingly gazing at her siting specific days and things that they did, and the emotions attached to those days. All the while she was acting like she had no clue what he was saying... She didn't remember the events and didn't seem too interested in what he was talking about. It was as if the things that had changed his life, and stuck with him through all the years were just a blur of for her. Just common days spent with someone. Nothing significant.
After she expressed that she didn't remember these things, which to him were monumental events, he said something that stuck with me.
"That was a big relationship for me"
The way we perceive things is a powerful thing. Especially what we decide to attach intense emotions to. A relationship, a conversation, a special day. These may have been common place occurrences for someone else, but how we perceive them shapes us and can almost change our futures.
That hit me like a ton of bricks. I had the proverbial flash of my life, as if these were my last moments. My past flew by like a film strip held up to the light for inspection. My past relationships, my important conversations, my defining moments and then I wondered. Were those all one sided?
I have concluded that this is something to not spend much time on. The past is simply that, the past. And it's with eyes focused forward that we get anywhere and become who we want. While our pasts shape us. They do not in any way define our futures. They are just a way for us to learn from our mistakes and experiences and to move on.
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